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Many people are familiar with the concept of the five languages of love, in which people express their sympathy and affection (and for those who are not, we recommend reading the book by its author, Harry Chapman - a really useful read). For some, love is expressed in time spent together, for others in words of approval, help, touches, or gifts.
And we wondered if there might be "love languages" in dance, too. There probably is. The kind of connection you seek with your partner depends directly on the kind of connection you yourself want. In other words, without thinking, we put in what we want to get ourselves - although this is not always the right decision.
Let's try to learn to understand what different partners really need, and this will help us to find a common language with everyone, to learn to dance to mutual pleasure.
What they crave: Excitement
Their least favorite partners: People who are not invested in the dance
Dancers, for whom the language of love in dance is energy, are looking to dance to the fullest. That doesn't mean the dance is difficult, but they want to feel that the partner is really fully invested. They don't mind the sweat and the heavy breathing. The perfect dance for them is one that leaves you feeling lightly exhausted at the end of a particularly great song, when you can barely get your feet off the dance floor. Appreciate the way he puts out - he does it for you, and try to reciprocate even a fraction of that!
What they crave: Fun!
Their least favorite partners: people who don't smile
Dancers who appreciate playfulness want to have fun. They don't care about sensuality or technique, but they want a partner who wants to play. It could be quirky figures or an interesting play on the words of a song (theatrical, mimetic) or something else. They like the sense of teamwork that comes from experimentation. Their ideal dance is when partners laugh at the odd moment or mistake, and where the boring "rightness" of the dance takes last place.
What they crave: Perfect synchronicity.
Their least favorite partners: people who dance figures or experiment, forgetting about connection
Dancers who seek connection forget the world around them and seek oneness with their partner. The visual picture means little to them. What they feel means everything. They would rather move slowly and simply and keep the "perfect connection" than go fast or hard and break the "magic."
For them, the "perfect dance" is the one where there is no interruption in synchronization with their partner's movements.
What they crave: Overcoming.
Their least favorite partners: people who don't try new things for fear of failure
Dancers who want to be constantly pushed to do more are Challenge dancers. They love the tricks, the supports, the complex ligatures. The leads (partners ) enjoy bringing out dizzying figures, inserting their own "acrobatics"; the following (partners ) take pride in their balance, responsiveness, sensitivity in performing movements they've never seen before.
Of course, and these dancers do not like completely dangerous partners (everyone needs to watch what is happening on the sides, not to crash, not to cause injury to each other ...). But a dance where they don't stay on their feet makes them want more. They are extremely curious about how many spins they can do on one leg, whether they can speed up that footwork by half. The perfect dance is when they have danced more than they expected of themselves.
What they crave: A subtle musical sensibility
Their least favorite partners: people who dance the same way, regardless of the music.
Dancers looking for expressiveness want emotion, texture and contrasts. They want a partner who best embodies each song in movement. Their ideal dance is one that perfectly captures the spirit of the song and its atmosphere.
These dancers can dance the simplest of figures - as long as there is musical expression. They would rather repeat 4-5 patterns in perfect synchronicity with the music than do 100 figures disconnected from the song. They love partners who are flexible to change their dance style when the music changes.
What they crave: Coming up with new things.
Their least favorite partners: people who follow a clearly memorized pattern in class
Dancers who communicate through Creativity want to always do something new - or in a new way. They want to "break the rules" and participate in co-creation. Habitual movements "will do" in small doses, but they don't satisfy these people.
Their ideal partner is someone who approaches each dance with a clean slate. They love it when their partner adds something unexpected, exploring new dimensions of movement. They would prefer the off the beaten path to the "safe" path that everyone else uses.
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